Gratitude or Stress
Over The Holiday Season?
The holiday season can give us time to pause, reflect and appreciate our life and those in it; or it can put pressure on us to cram our schedules full of activities and pull us into hectic environments like Black Friday.
The choice s ours.
What will you pick and why?
I used to go crazy during the holiday trying to do it all and do it well, but as each year passed I found more was added to my list and my poor body was exhausted. If I’m honest I was cranky to boot! Not at all who I wanted to be; especially during the holidays. Lack of sleep, the pressure of not enough time and the cost of things were not balancing out. Yet, at the time it all seemed to make sense.
It was what everyone was doing…. Wasn’t it?
Well, as I grew older and as my parents became ill I found my life changed focus. Not right away, as I wasn’t that bright. But over time, I began to realize that the biggest gifts in my life were actually sitting before me all the time. They weren’t hidden and wrapped in packages under a tree. They were the people in my life, all going through different stages of life.
They were raw and not perfect, but they were mine.
They were those who loved me, and I them.
They were those who stood by me and supported me, and I them.
They were those who got mad at me, and I them.
They were those who laughed with me, and I them.
They were those that cried with me, and I them.
They were those who sat silently with me, and I them.
They were those who forgave me, and I them.
Our imperfections were perfect together!
We gave each other love, energy and support through good and bad times. We were team. An indestructible force to be reckoned with even when at odds. We would step up and out for those we cared for and it showed. Others even mentioned they were jealous of what we had, yet it took me so long to truly realize the gift of our relationships.
It took being shook to the core. A life disaster.
It took finding out I might lose that which I have taken for granted most of my life.
So on this Thanksgiving Day I ask you to pause.
Please think about what your life would be like without those “human gifts” in your life.
If they were gone, how would it change your life?
If they were gone, how would it impact others?
When was the last time you told them how much they mattered to you and why?
Think what it feels like to be told you matter.
Giving the gift “YOU MATTER” to others will not only sooth your soul but theirs. It takes little time, costs nothing and can give you both great peace.
Please know how much each of you matter to me.
Know how much I appreciate your support not only for Alzheimer’s Speaks but for me as a person.
Know your journey is not one of being alone, but as part of a beautiful imperfect team within society.
Know your presence is honored. I wish you nothing less than a fantastic holiday season filled with wonder and surprises, surpassing your dreams.
Blessing to you all.
Thank you Mom and Dad for the beautiful life lessons you taught me. I hope you are celebrating in heaven.