Why Don’t My Sibling Accept the Fact Mom has Alzheimer’s? Why won’t They Help?

Why Don’t My Sibling Accept the Fact Mom has Alzheimer’s?  What’s with the denial?  Why won’t They Help?

This is my response to one of our readers

I believe that it is not just siblings but people in general.  There is great fear wrapped in change especially with aging and illness, due to lack of control.  Many people prefer denial thinking they won’t have to address the situation at hand.   Little to do they know, it extends and expands stress levels for themselves and others as down deep they know there is problem or issue that needs to be dealt with.  It takes more energy to deny and hide things then it does deal with them.  Most people don’t realize this as there are in such a state of denial they can’t even begin to realize their un-conscience mind is constantly spinning on how to avoid the situation…  which in itself can be exhausting.

I have learned to stop asking the question “Why are they like this?” and accept my siblings for who they are and where they are in life.  In doing, that my mind doesn’t spin trying to control their reactions and I can accept them for who they are and how they chose to live their life.  By doing that, I can focus on my life and how I feel I need to live it, which in turns allows me to lead by example. 

Letting go is so empowering and allows you to focus on what you feel is best for the situation.

6 Replies to “Why Don’t My Sibling Accept the Fact Mom has Alzheimer’s? Why won’t They Help?”

  1. After reading this particular entry, I was immediately intrigued. This disease is more common than many people believe, particularly in the African American community, yet so many people tend to neglect the severity of the disease. I, myself, have been in denial about the severity of the disease; even while knowing several people suffering from it, and one who has recently fallen victim to the terminality of the disease. It is unfortunate that so many people are naïve to the dangers of the disease. I believe that in order to combat this problem of denial and neglect, those of us, who understand the severity of the disease, need to contribute to raising awareness of the disease; and help those who we know that are suffering from the disease to cope with the reality and understand that people care and support them. If we can raise the national level of awareness for this disease, people will be less likely to be in denial about the disease but rather more knowledgeable and more likely to aid those who are suffering from the disease. Increasing awareness may also result in increased funding for organizations who are researching causes of the disease, ways to prevent it, and how to lead a normal life living with the disease.

  2. That is the best weblog for anybody who wants to search out out about this topic. You realize so much its almost hard to argue with you (not that I truly would want…HaHa). You undoubtedly put a new spin on a topic thats been written about for years. Great stuff, just nice!

  3. Awesome blog you have here but I was curious about if you knew of any message boards that cover the same topics discussed here? I’d really like to be a part of community where I can get suggestions from other knowledgeable individuals that share the same interest. If you have any recommendations, please let me know. Cheers!

    1. HI Gabriel

      I would say go to:
      Facebook and search Memeory People and ask to join. This is a closed group on facebook so your comments will not show up so others can see, only those inthe group. If for some reason you can’t find the group this way befrined me Lori La Bey and ask me to add you to Memory People and I can add you
      The Alzheimer’s Association at Alz.Org they have a great chatroom

      Hope that helps


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