Why Don’t My Sibling Accept the Fact Mom has Alzheimer’s? What’s with the denial? Why won’t They Help?
This is my response to one of our readers
I believe that it is not just siblings but people in general. There is great fear wrapped in change especially with aging and illness, due to lack of control. Many people prefer denial thinking they won’t have to address the situation at hand. Little to do they know, it extends and expands stress levels for themselves and others as down deep they know there is problem or issue that needs to be dealt with. It takes more energy to deny and hide things then it does deal with them. Most people don’t realize this as there are in such a state of denial they can’t even begin to realize their un-conscience mind is constantly spinning on how to avoid the situation… which in itself can be exhausting.
I have learned to stop asking the question “Why are they like this?” and accept my siblings for who they are and where they are in life. In doing, that my mind doesn’t spin trying to control their reactions and I can accept them for who they are and how they chose to live their life. By doing that, I can focus on my life and how I feel I need to live it, which in turns allows me to lead by example.
Letting go is so empowering and allows you to focus on what you feel is best for the situation.