Caregiving is challenging no matter what side of Care you are on – Giving or Receiving.
I learned early on as a Caregiver when I perceived my role as a “Fix It Person,” my To Do list became a competitive game. This attitude created a Win/Lose situation, and it was driven by my need to control things.
Today I approach my Caregiving “To Do List” with flexibility. I assess three things before I proceed with any task. Those three things are: is the person I am providing care to 1) Safe, 2) Pain-free, and 3) Happy. If so, I move forward with my tasks in the order of my priorities. If not, I make some adjustments to make sure I can say “yes” to those three items. Once I know my person is Safe, Pain-free, and Happy; I review my checklist knowing it is ok to reprioritize. I accept some things may not get completed how, when, or where I thought they would. I have found these three words help me stay focused on what’s truly important. It’s not about me feeling in control. It’s about Good Care! Funny thing is, when I am more flexible in my Caregiving Role, I am less stressed and feel more in control.
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