The New Hybrid CAR Egiver™
by Lori La Bey of Alzheimer’s Speaks and Senior Lifestyle Trends
Many times Caregiver’s feel they are being watched and judged. They are fearful of making changes knowing others may call them on those changes. They don’t have the strength or desire to get into a confrontation with others. There are too many other things to concentrate on. They don’t have the energy or the time to waste, so they keep doing things the same way even when they are not working so well.
As professionals in the industry we need to educate people on what I call the “New Hybrid CAR Egiver™.” “CAR” stands for “Conscience Awakening of Relationships.” “Egivers “has its own acronym but bottom lines stands for “Emotional Givers.” There is so much more to Caregiving then our “To Do Lists”. To Do Lists allow Caregiver’s to feel they are in control and doing something positive to help. Yet true Caregiving is about embracing a relationship and providing emotional balance to the one we are caring for and our self, while assuring necessary tasks are completed.
For myself, I came to this realization after my Father’s death in 2001. For example, there is a huge difference between orchestrating lunch vs. going out to lunch with my Father as a daughter. The focus of the interaction totally shifts. People should not lose the base of their relationship to become a Caregiver. The relationship should be enhanced.
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