When The Movies Become Reality

Polly want a cracker?

I do not remember the name of the show, but I do remember they had a parakeet in the movie.  When there was a close up of the bird, my Mother said in a loud voice for all the theater to hear, “Polly want a cracker?”  Everyone in the theater started laughing and so of course, she said it again. 

I will never forgot the look on my Niece Sarah’s face as she bent over and looked down the row at me, not sure what to do.  I smiled and laughed and I think Sarah was relieved to know it was ok to laugh too.

Christmas with the Cranks – When The Movies Become Reality

By Lori La Bey, of Senior Lifestyle Trends


This one really through me for a loop.  We went to see the movie, “Christmas with the Cranks.”  This was a great family movie and all was going along very smooth.  Mom was enjoying her popcorn and the movie.  Then there was a scene where the whole neighborhood was protesting outside Cranks’ house.  The neighbors wanted the Cranks’ to put their big inflatable Frosty the Snowman up on their roof like everyone else did.  It was the neighborhood tradition.  The next scene was the whole neighborhood standing in the street protesting the saying, “Free Frosty, Free Frosty.”

My Mother, who was not very mobile, hoisted herself up and out of her chair and was standing in our row holding onto the back of the chair in front her to steady herself, yelling, “FREE FROSTY, FREE FROSTY!” with the neighbors.

The entire theater burst into laughter, which of course egged my Mother on, and I was not sure she was going to sit back down.  The scene seemed to last forever but when it did change, she sat down, beaming with pride that she had taken a stand for justice.  For that, I was thankful.  No harm done.  Everyone had a great story to tell when they left the show.

Remember, you never know when a person with Alzheimer’s world of reality will change, so just go with the flow, if there is no harm being done to them or others.  If the situation is causing a problem, then try redirecting or a distracting them, but don’t waste your time or theirs arguing what’s real or not, what’s appropriate or not.  If it didn’t make logical sense to them to begin with, they most likely would not be doing what they are doing.  Learn to embrace the innocents, the child they have become.  Ask yourself the question, “If a young child did what they are doing would it upset you or make you smile?”  You may find yourself amazed at your answer.

In the mean time, I hope you enjoyed the moment in the theater with my Mom as much as I do, each time I replay it in my mind.

2 Replies to “When The Movies Become Reality”

  1. I love your stories, Lori! I chuckled when I read them. It’s so important that you share these. Hopefully they help others who are dealing with a loved one with Alzheimer’s to realize the importance of “going with the flow” and to look for the humor in a situation.

    1. HI Beth,

      Thanks so much for your feedback and suppport of the blog. The older I get, I realize “going with the flow” makes so much more sense and life becomes so much more fun! These movie stories are precious and fun to look back at. It is true, we can either remember the good times or the bad. We are so lucky as we alone get to pick!

      Hope you have a great weekend!

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